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Those People
Oct. 14th, 2009 09:24 pmWhat do you do with Those People in your life? Do you know the ones I mean? Do you even have any of Those People, or is it just me? I seem to be plagued by these people who are under the mistaken impression that we are much closer than we actually are. It drives me bonkers.
I've encountered this problem before in my life, but never to the extent I am running into these days with a girl we will simply call "J." She is the sister of someone I consider a good friend. She is closer to my age than her sister, with whom I am friends, but she acts like a sixteen-year-old.
I've had her over once for dinner, to let her vent because she texted and texted and texted and I finally just got sick of it and said, "Sure, I'll listen." She wasn't even supposed to have my number. I was talking to her sister, my friend, who was driving and couldn't respond, so her sister took over... on her phone. And saved my number. And abused it. Endlessly.
Then I somehow got roped into dinner with her, out at Olive Garden. All she talked about was her "secret boyfriend." She tells me he lives in Syracuse. I ask where, and she says, "Well I don't know, I pick him up at a friend's house and we stay there cause he doesn't want me over." (Sound like bad news? How about the fact that she claims to have upwards of $3500 in credit card debt for his 'stuff'? Yet, when I tell her this sounds sketchy to say the least, she whines and says things like "Well what do you want me to do?! Sacrifice true happiness?!")
They live with parents who are probably just as strict as mine-- maybe even more, in some aspects. (Like the girls cannot date unless it's the man they're going to marry. How much sense does that make?)
I'm straying from my point. The point isn't to fix her problems here, because she wouldn't listen to any bit of reason I threw her way. (This is why I totally prefer her level-headed, openly Christian, book-adoring sister. She's like a much more sheltered version of me. And she calls me Big Sis!)
ANYWAY, the point is... how do I deal with "J"? I don't want to risk losing my interactions with the sister I love, but I cannot stand her harassing me, much less getting together and making it face-to-face. The subtle hints haven't worked thus far.
I've encountered this problem before in my life, but never to the extent I am running into these days with a girl we will simply call "J." She is the sister of someone I consider a good friend. She is closer to my age than her sister, with whom I am friends, but she acts like a sixteen-year-old.
I've had her over once for dinner, to let her vent because she texted and texted and texted and I finally just got sick of it and said, "Sure, I'll listen." She wasn't even supposed to have my number. I was talking to her sister, my friend, who was driving and couldn't respond, so her sister took over... on her phone. And saved my number. And abused it. Endlessly.
Then I somehow got roped into dinner with her, out at Olive Garden. All she talked about was her "secret boyfriend." She tells me he lives in Syracuse. I ask where, and she says, "Well I don't know, I pick him up at a friend's house and we stay there cause he doesn't want me over." (Sound like bad news? How about the fact that she claims to have upwards of $3500 in credit card debt for his 'stuff'? Yet, when I tell her this sounds sketchy to say the least, she whines and says things like "Well what do you want me to do?! Sacrifice true happiness?!")
They live with parents who are probably just as strict as mine-- maybe even more, in some aspects. (Like the girls cannot date unless it's the man they're going to marry. How much sense does that make?)
I'm straying from my point. The point isn't to fix her problems here, because she wouldn't listen to any bit of reason I threw her way. (This is why I totally prefer her level-headed, openly Christian, book-adoring sister. She's like a much more sheltered version of me. And she calls me Big Sis!)
ANYWAY, the point is... how do I deal with "J"? I don't want to risk losing my interactions with the sister I love, but I cannot stand her harassing me, much less getting together and making it face-to-face. The subtle hints haven't worked thus far.
